Understanding Anger in 3 steps

For us to manage anger, we need to understand where it comes from.

#1. Anger is almost NEVER the primary emotional response.

Anger is so common because society has told us it is the only acceptable emotion, that all other emotions are weak. Continue reading Understanding Anger in 3 steps

Is Seasonal Affective Disorder actually normal ?

I live in Nova Scotia, Canada.  It is now getting dark by 5:30pm.  It is cold, 0 celcius or below.  There is snow falling outside.  Between November and February, the early darkness, cold temperatures and snow will continue.  We won’t see relief until April or May.

I’m not here to talk about the weather though. I am here to talk about how I FEEL in the weather, about Seasonal Affective Disorder.  I feel moody.  I feel irritable.  I don’t want to go outside (which for me is odd as I require nature to truly feel peaceful).  I am less able to handle the daily stressors that I was coping with effectively only a few weeks ago.  What is happening ? Continue reading Is Seasonal Affective Disorder actually normal ?

TWO (completely FREE) life changing tips for managing stress

Stress, in the literal definition, means a pressure, tension or strain placed on an object.  Bending metal, pulling chain or rope, puts physical stress on the material.  Under excessive stress, these materials will break.

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Humans are the same, but our pressure, tension and strain are not usually physical.  They can be – under situations of extreme exercise or threat of physical harm, but otherwise most of human stress in North America is psychological.  These pressures and strains are our daily obligations and expectations that we face in personal, professional and family interactions. Continue reading TWO (completely FREE) life changing tips for managing stress

To Mind or Not To Mind – the Mindfulness / Meditation Debate

There has been a lot of debate recently over the impact that mindfulness and meditation have on people who practise these activities.

Some people swear it’s their salvation, others warn of the mental health damage they can leave in their wake.

So who can you believe ? Are mindfulness and meditation the key to happiness ? Or will they cause more mental health issues, bringing up horrible traumas that we have locked within us ?  Is it all a fad, just another gimmick for us to spend our hard earned money on ? Continue reading To Mind or Not To Mind – the Mindfulness / Meditation Debate

Mental Wellness Winter Survival Tips

Whether you want to call it the winter blues, seasonal affective disorder (SAD) or seasonal depression, the winter season DOES produce feelings of sadness, hopelessness, despair and loneliness in many people.  Usually this change occurs between the months of September and April, with many people noticing a serious change throughout January and February.

If the winter months have you feeling suicidal, I recommend seeking professional help from law enforcement, a hospital, your doctor, or mental health crisis centre.

Why Does the Weather Get Us Down ?

Continue reading Mental Wellness Winter Survival Tips

A Wolf in Sheep’s Clothing, or a Sheep in a Wolf Mask? (Emotional Avoidance)

We call them wolves, tigers, or sharks. Bears, eagles and lions symbolize their strength. These are the relentless humans who will stop at nothing to achieve.  They may be loud, seemingly unemotional and intimidating.  Society rewards them with terms such as successful and powerful, and showers them with money.  Other people want to either BECOME them, be WITH them, or even just be AROUND them. Continue reading A Wolf in Sheep’s Clothing, or a Sheep in a Wolf Mask? (Emotional Avoidance)